My mornings usually consist of waking early and lying in bed for some time because I have this habit of awakening at ungodly hours. No matter what time I go to bed, my body refuses to let me sleep past 3 or 4 o?clock in the morning. As I lay staring at my ceiling, I sometimes think about what I?ll be doing that day or what commissions we?re behind on, but mostly I reminisce. What about? Well, my Stephanie, mainly. It?s hard to believe that it?s been seven years. How much would she have changed if she?d not been taken away at such an early age? How different would our last weeks together have been if it wasn?t a sickness that took her from me?
I sometimes get lost. Thinking about how life used to be--happy and normal--puts me in a trance. Stephanie was a force to be reckoned with, even in her last days. She always found something to smile about. Usually it was our little Adalia. No matter how poorly she was feeling that day, Stephanie always made time for Ada; whether it was cuddling in bed or reading books to each other. Sometimes, they?d let me join in on their special moments. A memory I often enjoy visiting is the first time Adalia learned that her mother was going to die. Most would consider this incredibly depressing, but I can remember the look on Adalia?s face when she finally understood. It wasn?t a look of sorrow or sadness. No, Adalia simply smiled peacefully, snuggled into her mother?s embrace and stated that she was going to be glad to have her Mama as her guardian angel. Stephanie fought back the tears, as did I, and kissed Adalia?s brow.
We had a similar conversation several years after Stephanie had passed. It was shortly after it was confirmed that Adalia had the same disease. She very calmly looked up at me, grinned through the tears welling up in her eyes and told me, ?I?ll get to see Mama again, Daddy. I?ll get to hold her again. And we?ll both be your guardian angels.?
I?ll never understand her peace. The thought of my little girl dying scares me to death. She?s all I have left. I?m guilty of treating her much younger than her 10 years of age. I don?t want to see her get hurt. I forget, at times, that she isn?t a porcelain doll to keep high on a shelf out of reach. She?s something to be treasured, enjoyed, played with.
But the thought of never hearing her soft chattering just down the hall from me ever again still frightens me. That?s why this morning, when instead of gossipy whispering coming from her room (she and her Pixie love to tell each other secrets) I heard soft whimpering, my heart leapt into my throat.
I whipped the covers back and launched out of my bed. ?I?m coming!? I yelled. I doubt she heard me. As I threw open my bedroom door, Pippi, Adalia?s pixie, was darting around in the hallway. She looked frightened. I stopped just outside my door to calm my nerves and steady my breathing.
?Daddy,? I heard my daughter?s weak voice filter from her bedroom. The lump in my throat grew larger as I found myself unable to move. This was a moment I?d been dreading for 5 years. Was I ready to handle it? My heart thundered in my chest, threatening to leap from it altogether. I was still somewhat collected until I heard the soft creak of her bedroom door open and I saw her stumble out into the hallway.
Her nightgown was covered in blood that was dripping from her face. Not only was it trickling from her nose, but also her mouth and the corners of her eyes.
My mind took me back to the first time this had happened to Stephanie. She used to like to steal my pillow while we slept at night. Well, not steal it, but share it. Out foreheads were touching nearly every morning when I?d awaken. That morning, I?d awakened to the metallic smell of blood. It had soaked into my hair and lined the left side of my face. My wife lay motionless with blood dripping from her eyes, nose, and ears. She hadn?t died then, not for another four months and 6 days, but the sight of the woman that I loved with her very life draining away before my eyes has never left me.
This sight, too, would remain with me for the rest of my days. She looked ghostly, the red blood standing as a stark reminder against her pale skin of how much the illness had affected her so far. I remember crying out in despair, rushing towards her with my arms held out to catch her as she pitched forward.
A searing pain shot through my leg as my knees collided with the wooden floor boards, my child?s wilting body cradled against my chest. ?No!? I screamed, tears beginning to pour down my face. I don?t know who, exactly, I was yelling to since I?m not entirely sure I can believe in a God who takes so much from a man. ?You cannot have her!? I wept.
The rest of the morning was a blur. I took her to a doctor who got the bleeding to stop. Ethan and I closed the shop for the day and he told me to take some time off. I know I need it. She?s asleep now, in my bed, and I feel the threat of sleep taking hold of me even now. I am exhausted. Her time will only get shorter which means my waking moments grow longer. She doesn?t have much time and I?m not willing to waste what little I have left on sleep.
Let it take me by force; for now, though, I will hold my child and whisper truths in her ear. I will be there for her. I love her. I will protect her forever.
I sometimes get lost. Thinking about how life used to be--happy and normal--puts me in a trance. Stephanie was a force to be reckoned with, even in her last days. She always found something to smile about. Usually it was our little Adalia. No matter how poorly she was feeling that day, Stephanie always made time for Ada; whether it was cuddling in bed or reading books to each other. Sometimes, they?d let me join in on their special moments. A memory I often enjoy visiting is the first time Adalia learned that her mother was going to die. Most would consider this incredibly depressing, but I can remember the look on Adalia?s face when she finally understood. It wasn?t a look of sorrow or sadness. No, Adalia simply smiled peacefully, snuggled into her mother?s embrace and stated that she was going to be glad to have her Mama as her guardian angel. Stephanie fought back the tears, as did I, and kissed Adalia?s brow.
We had a similar conversation several years after Stephanie had passed. It was shortly after it was confirmed that Adalia had the same disease. She very calmly looked up at me, grinned through the tears welling up in her eyes and told me, ?I?ll get to see Mama again, Daddy. I?ll get to hold her again. And we?ll both be your guardian angels.?
I?ll never understand her peace. The thought of my little girl dying scares me to death. She?s all I have left. I?m guilty of treating her much younger than her 10 years of age. I don?t want to see her get hurt. I forget, at times, that she isn?t a porcelain doll to keep high on a shelf out of reach. She?s something to be treasured, enjoyed, played with.
But the thought of never hearing her soft chattering just down the hall from me ever again still frightens me. That?s why this morning, when instead of gossipy whispering coming from her room (she and her Pixie love to tell each other secrets) I heard soft whimpering, my heart leapt into my throat.
I whipped the covers back and launched out of my bed. ?I?m coming!? I yelled. I doubt she heard me. As I threw open my bedroom door, Pippi, Adalia?s pixie, was darting around in the hallway. She looked frightened. I stopped just outside my door to calm my nerves and steady my breathing.
?Daddy,? I heard my daughter?s weak voice filter from her bedroom. The lump in my throat grew larger as I found myself unable to move. This was a moment I?d been dreading for 5 years. Was I ready to handle it? My heart thundered in my chest, threatening to leap from it altogether. I was still somewhat collected until I heard the soft creak of her bedroom door open and I saw her stumble out into the hallway.
Her nightgown was covered in blood that was dripping from her face. Not only was it trickling from her nose, but also her mouth and the corners of her eyes.
My mind took me back to the first time this had happened to Stephanie. She used to like to steal my pillow while we slept at night. Well, not steal it, but share it. Out foreheads were touching nearly every morning when I?d awaken. That morning, I?d awakened to the metallic smell of blood. It had soaked into my hair and lined the left side of my face. My wife lay motionless with blood dripping from her eyes, nose, and ears. She hadn?t died then, not for another four months and 6 days, but the sight of the woman that I loved with her very life draining away before my eyes has never left me.
This sight, too, would remain with me for the rest of my days. She looked ghostly, the red blood standing as a stark reminder against her pale skin of how much the illness had affected her so far. I remember crying out in despair, rushing towards her with my arms held out to catch her as she pitched forward.
A searing pain shot through my leg as my knees collided with the wooden floor boards, my child?s wilting body cradled against my chest. ?No!? I screamed, tears beginning to pour down my face. I don?t know who, exactly, I was yelling to since I?m not entirely sure I can believe in a God who takes so much from a man. ?You cannot have her!? I wept.
The rest of the morning was a blur. I took her to a doctor who got the bleeding to stop. Ethan and I closed the shop for the day and he told me to take some time off. I know I need it. She?s asleep now, in my bed, and I feel the threat of sleep taking hold of me even now. I am exhausted. Her time will only get shorter which means my waking moments grow longer. She doesn?t have much time and I?m not willing to waste what little I have left on sleep.
Let it take me by force; for now, though, I will hold my child and whisper truths in her ear. I will be there for her. I love her. I will protect her forever.